Gaslighting
Signs of Gaslighting
- Their actions don’t match their words
- Distracts from their behavior by projecting on you
- Degrading comments followed by positive reinforcement
- They attempt to block or are unsupportive of your growth
- They lie and deny even when there is evidence
- They will say things like, “You’re imagining things,” or “You’re being crazy,” and “You’re being so jealous.”
The Impact of Gaslighting
- Feeling confused and second guessing your memory
- Trying to earn back the loving side of the person
- Making decisions becomes increasingly more difficult
- Constantly apologizing for your behavior
- Staying silent or lying to avoid a reaction
- We start to believe we are gaslighting them
Responding to Gaslighting
- We remember things differently”
- “If you continue to speak to me like this, I will not engage”
- “I hear you, but this is my experience”
- “I know what the truth is and I won’t debate you on it”
“I am stepping away from this conversation”